I don’t quite understand the sentiment of “I hope that one day you find someone” — someone, of course, having a deeper meaning than just “hey, look! There’s someone!”.
Coming from my dad, my mom, my grandma… yeah, okay, understandable. They want to see me grow up and get married and have kids and be happy.
But from, basically, a stranger? Why should someone I am never going to see again hope that “one day [I] find someone”?
This conversation I had with this person occurred many months ago, and I’ve been meaning to write about it, but it always ended up as an angsty teenage rant, and considering I’ll be twenty this year (technically), I need to kind of outgrow those.
Anyway, I kind of liken this conversation — well, not much, but somewhat — to the scene in “Battle Royale” where the chick is dying and the guy is like “I always liked you” and she’s like “no no, not now!” because she liked him back and they never knew and all that time pining away for each was wasted because they totally could’ve been together all along.
Okay, so my situation was nothing like that. But people tend to tell you how great you are when they are never going to see you again. Umm, yeah, it’s appreciated, but hey, it might’ve helped me way back when when I was feeling bad about myself some hypothetical time in the past.
So if you have something nice to say about someone, then don’t wait for some special moment to tell them, I guess is what I’m saying. Not that I’ll follow my own advice, but whatever.
Anyway, looking at this in another way, I think, well, who says I need to find someone? You don’t hear people saying that to men, do ya? But of course, men don’t need women, women need men. Of course, how silly of me!
I honestly don’t think it was intended in that way, but I just thought I’d mention it because I like mentioning things like that and making it awkward because other people would mention it and actually mean something by it but I like making fun of those kinds of people who take things too seriously.
Suppose I’m taking this too seriously, you might say. I don’t think so. I just think it’s weird. I don’t go around telling people “I hope you’re happy” because then they’d think I was mad at them for some reason and I don’t get mad at people.
Another thing. I suppose I should mention this person was a teacher of mine and they told me all this great stuff about me and the said phrase above on exam review day. Okay, I suppose I can say it was my creative writing teacher, since I don’t see any reason why not.
But yeah — what if I’d had a boyfriend, and thus, in my dumb teenage mind, believed I’d already found someone I loved? Wouldn’t I be a tad offended by her remark? “What, you mean, Johnny and I aren’t going to be together forever!?”
So yeah, it’s nice that she apparently is a good person and she wants good things for other people, namely myself, and I was flattered at the things she said about me, which I don’t actually remember now since they weren’t all that important (or anything I could really take as being specifically about me, considering she didn’t know my name), but really, it kind of weirded me out. Plus the fact that she specifically said “man — or woman — “, which I think was just an attempt at being politically correct rather than implying anything about my sexuality.
So there it is.